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I am pretty sure you’ve come across certain instances where you experienced self-sabotaging. It can happen to anyone, but it is unhealthy for your wellbeing.
Have you ever wondered why that happened? Or what made you feel that way? The main culprit behind self-sabotaging is your bad habits.
I genuinely believe it is never too late and possible to change our bad habits and replace them with better ones. Now let’s explore what these bad habits are and how to change them for your betterment.
5 Bad Habits You Probably Didn’t Know Were Sabotaging You;
Doubting yourself
Self-doubt is one of the heaviest weights we carry in life. Feeling you’re not enough, you’re not deserving, you’re not worthy, etc might have already held you back from many great opportunities, right?
This all starts from our beliefs that are caused by past experiences. As you know, we can’t change our past, but we can absolutely change the way we think and behave. All you have to do is to make a conscious effort to replace your negative thoughts with empowering and positive thinking.
For instance, when you catch yourself thinking, “I am not talented enough to do this”- kindly tell yourself this; “I can do whatever I put my mind into and I can learn things”.
Comparing yourself to others
Comparison is truly the theft of joy. I am sure you can’t even remember how many times you have compared yourself, and your life to the people or things you see on social media.
First, you must understand that everything you see online is not real. People may look happier, but just like you, they are humans too with flaws. The thing is that social media influencers or your friends just prefer not to post their flaws and struggles on their accounts. And it makes them look perfect.
It is kinda hard to stop this habit because you compare yourself with others unintentionally. But it is not something impossible to do and there are many ways to change this habit.
For instance, you can always remember that “we’re all flawed humans doing the best we can to make our life happy”. Try to appreciate where you are now, and be grateful for what you have now in your life while working towards getting what you want. In that way, you’ll find so much peace and happiness.
Neglecting your mental health
We, as humans, are tended to neglect our mental health. Being active or busy was not never the answer. If you want to do your best in life, you must have a good mental state including a peaceful mind. This is why you should make time for yourself.
Taking care of your mental health means doing what makes you happy and doing things for your betterment. It can be taking a break from work, planning a solo date or a date with your favorite person, and doing whatever makes you truly happy, even if it takes only 10 mins per day! You need you and your energy… take care of yourself. Always remember; “BETTER MIND, BETTER LIFE!”.
Living in the past
Living in the past can hold us back from being happy. We cling to old memories/ situations/ relationships, etc- but If you keep living in the past, you’re completely missing what’s for you in this season.
There’s no point living in the past because as you know, you can’t undo what happened. Now all you can do is to understand what you learned from that, then heal and move forward. Life is too short to live in the past! Let go and move forward unapologetically to find the place you actually belong.
Negative self-talk
“Every time you catch yourself engaging in negative self-talk, imagine you’re saying that to your younger self”- doing this will definitely help you understand that you shouldn’t be so hard on yourself. Negative self-talk can literally make you feel helpless and leave you in a bad mood.
You can use meditation, breathing exercises, or any other conscious effort to root out all negative self-talk and replace it with positive thoughts such as affirmations since we tend to attract more of what we subconsciously believe in.
I hope this article helped you to understand toxic af habits that you must quit as soon as possible. If you quit these habits, I promise you will start to see a difference in your life!
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